Untold Stories With Maman Christelle
You have a choice
I had been cut twice before and now the consultant says, “you MUST have another caesarean section, or your uterus will rupture.”
This was not just about bringing a child into this World. It was also about me, as a Mu Rega. For the women of the Rega Tribe in the Democratic Republic of Congo, Vaginal Birth is like a rite of passage into motherhood. This does not mean that that women
who have not given birth vaginally hold less value. It simply means that vaginal birth is encouraged and taught. Women prepare for this even before they are pregnant and during birth, crying is strictly forbidden. Upon hearing “uterus rupture and brain damage” I knew that the welfare of my unborn baby outweighed my need to experience a vaginal birth, like all the Ba Rega women who had come before me. I signed the consent form which lists “death” as possible side effect and was given an appointment, to be cut, again.
When I arrived home, I tried to accept that I will never experience the one thing I had wanted to experience my whole life. I had always known that I had a choice but somehow it had been taken from me. I called for help. I called Holistic Habibah, who told me to call Holding her Space for a second opinion. I called for help and Nai answered. She told me “you have a choice. Make sure you tell them what you want.